Finding Time To Spend Quiet Time Alone

by Barbara

 

Lotus flower
We are all living a busy life. With responsibilities come activities, and plenty of them.

Quiet time in reflection on our daily interactions, helps us to gain insight about our connection and place in the world. We all want to do the right thing. But how can we determine how well we behaved and responded to our life experiences, if we don’t reflect?

A practice of quiet time by ourself either in the morning or evening will benefit us and establish a healthy habit of reflection. These are the time of day many people meditate. Meditation does not necessarily mean we sit in a lotus posture on the floor with a cushion, chanting OM. Walking on the beach, walking meditatively through a park or even a favorite stuffed chair will do.

Being alone can de-stress us. Turning off the television and muting the phone will stop the bombardment of electrical frequencies on our energy systems and organs.

If you are unable to be by yourself and enjoy your own company, how can you expect anyone else to enjoy you? If the thought of being by yourself scares you, then try it in small doses. Make a schedule on the calendar to spend 30 minutes a day for the first week. Increase the time by 15 to 30 minutes the next week, and so forth, until you become comfortable with your quiet time and the amount of time in meditation that works for you. Twenty minutes may be all the time you need.

Some Ways to Squeeze In Quiet Time:

1. Turn off the television. I sold my TV three years ago and I haven’t missed it. I figure if a news story needs to come to my attention, someone will tell me. If you must have a TV, then reduce the number of shows you watch. Modify your lifestyle. You already know what’s best for you.

2. Wake up early. I set my alarm thirty minutes earlier so I can get out of bed and meditate in the morning. My alarm sound is a soothing and gentle harp.

3. Relax after work. When I used to work in the corporate environment, I came home from work and meditated in the citrus garden for an hour. I had amazing experiences during the late afternoon meditations that helped me understand who I really am.

4. Limit Internet time. If you need to, set a timer to help you adjust. The Internet can be addicting and a time sucker if you don’t stay aware.

5. This one is for you. You know yourself best and what you can do to squeeze in quiet time. Fill in the way that works for you: ___________________________________.

I’ve heard it said if you do an activity for 30 days, it becomes a habit. Also, you can ask your angels to help you. They will support you with your intentions. You can ask them to keep you undisturbed during the time you are alone. If your family or partner will not respect your boundaries and give you time alone, then seek professional help with a counselor. Your family or partner is telling you something about yourself that needs to be addressed.

I understand in our busy life we can come up with a huge list of reasons why we can’t spend quiet time alone. Then, we must ask ourselves, “Am I being moderate in all activities?” “Am I taking care of myself and the body my Creator gave me to use in this lifetime?” Quiet time can be found. It’s up to us to discover it. 
 
 

{ 25 comments… read them below or add one }

Alexandra McAllister

Such a beautiful post, Barbara.  I totally agree…we all need our quiet time. It is so important. Thank you for the reminder. God bless.

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Barbara

God bless you Alexandra! I love how we are all helping one another.

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Lisa Wells

Thanks for the  post. I'm a strong believer we all need quiet time to rejuvenate our greatness. 

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Barbara

Yes, Lisa, I totally agree with you.

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Carolyn Hughes

It is so important to have time to yourself that is peaceful and quiet. I couldn't agree more with you about switching off tv's and internet. I've just spent a couple of weeks offline and it was so beneficial! Some great advice here Barbara to help us balance our lives as God intended.

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Barbara

Thank you Carolyn for reading my post and sharing what you did to honor yourself. You are always an inspiration to me!

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Sharon O'Day

Ten days ago, over the weekend everything came crashing down on me.  I was carrying too much.  And not finding the time to ground myself and nurture myself.  That old Superwoman/Overachiever Stuff had somehow crept in.  Radical shift, let go, realign, recenter … and I'm back on track.  This weekend I played.  Thanks for these added suggestions, Barbara, of how to stay safe and sane!

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Barbara

Yes Sharon, I can relate to the “superwoman/overachiever stuff”. I gave that up years ago. I had to, in order to become who I am today. Even this past week I went through an energy shift, so powerful, it’s equivalent to undergoing major surgery. I had to cut back, sleep more, drink lots of water, not talk on the phone, meditate and nurture myself. It’s still going on and will take probably another two weeks of this recovery period. I’m playing it day by day, and will make further adjustments if needed. I must remain in total alignment to my body’s needs. Thank you for sharing how you honored yourself and shifted. You are inspiring people!

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Oluwaseun Babajide

I will definitely limit internet time!
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Barbara

Yes, Seun, I have found if we don’t take the time to limit our Internet engagement, the time will find us out of balance. Our dance in life is about moderation in all aspects. Moderation keeps us centered and healthy. When we go “overboard”, we end up doing the exact opposite, to bring us back to zero point. That’s when our energy kicks back in and we have new found insights and productivity in what we love.

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Vatsala Shukla

Excellent tips, Barbara. I especially loved tip #5 which makes the reader accountable for finding their own quiet time. It is doable and since it comes from the reader, it would most probably meet with success if the right amount of commitment is there.

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Barbara

Yes Vatsala, I thought having one tip to be the reader’s choice, would make this recommendation more powerful, empowering the reader to engage in what is best for them. These are the seeds I plant in people. I’m witnessing positive, magnificent changes in the people who attend my Star Energy group healings.

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Anne Allen

Lovely read, Barbara. I appreciate the different ways to spend quiet time – so many great ideas you shared. 🙂 #2 spoke to me, in particular, about waking earlier to spend time in mediation  – love that one.

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tomholmberg378799134

Love your tips for destressing by being alone, I find it helpful to get a recharge

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Kathy Robinson

My special time is usually after hubby has gone to bed. I sit there, perhaps listening to some jazz and read for 30 minutes or so. Then I sleep like a baby. We all need that 'me time'.

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Barbara

This is so beautiful Kathy. I love listening to jazz on a rainy day.

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MamaRed

It has taken me a very very long time to get to the point where I can be with me and not jones for company or TV or something. Now I'm re-learning how to be in the presence of others (especially groups) without being overwhelmed by discombobolated energy! Interesting how things have changed.
Thanks for great stuff my dear!
MamaRed

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Barbara

I hear you MamaRed. Many years ago I was very afraid to be by myself. As I evolved, I experienced the discomfort of being in front of an audience. I learned I was sensing everyone’s toxic energy from driving to the venue and all the craziness of their being, interacting with other people, etc. I found out how to change that energy to one of love and calm. Now, I love facilitating group healings and being vulnerable and safe, all at the same time.

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Moira Hutchison

These are wonderful de-stress tips Barbara!  I agree that it's important ot be at peace with yourself in order to be with others.  Thanks for a great post.

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Barbara

Thank you Moira, for your kind words. Yes, peace is important for all of us.

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Solvita

Great tips! Thank you for sharing them. I can only agree with importance of the quite time. I enjoy my quite times so much! 😉

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Barbara

Thank you Solvita. Glad to hear you make time for yourself and enjoy it too.

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Pat Moon

You have touched on many very important reasons to not allow a quiet time to slip through our schedules. It is so important to spend time reflecting, planning, reading God's Word, and listening for His answers. Thanks for sharing a great article.

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Norma Doiron @Explode Your BIZ Online

“Am I being moderate in all activities?” “Am I taking care of myself and the body my Creator gave me to use in this lifetime?”  Thanks for calling me out on this. I get so absorbed in what I'm doing in the moment that I lose track of time! Hmmmm…. 🙂 

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Barbara

I do the same thing Norma! We continually need to check in on ourselves. This school we are in can be very challenging at times. Thank you for your comment!

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